Society seems to be just rife with judgements – particularly in the realm of parenting.
I have lots, lots, to say on this very topic, but before I ramble on too much, I want to share a story with you.
It was a few years ago now, and I was at the local swimming pool, watching my older two boys in their lesson whilst I tried in vain to prevent my infant from ending up more soaked than he’d already managed to get his fully clothed self.
I witnessed this … a woman, carrying a baby of maybe 9 or 10 month old under one arm, yelling at her kids to hurry up and get out of the pool and hauling a swimming bag along wandered along the length of the pool, towards the change rooms.
She neared a woman, sitting on a seat beside the smaller pool, a pram in front of her and a tiny baby, weeks, if not days old, in her arms.
This second woman was breastfeeding the bubs; discreetly, but obviously.
As the first woman passed her, she turned her head, looked directly at her and frowned. It must have been quite a look as the breastfeeding, new mum, squirmed uncomfortably in her seat, pulled her baby a little closer, and pulled her top down to cover any miniscule amount of exposed breast.
(There was hardly any.)
What was most surprising about it all was that the first woman had, maybe fifteen or so minutes earlier, been sitting beside the pool, further down, on the ground, feeding the older baby she was carrying on her hip.
Let me be clear – she was breastfeeding the 9 or 10 month old baby, as she sat, beside the pool, very much like this woman with the brand new baby was doing? Only not on a chair, either, but pretty much in the middle of the pool decking.
Perhaps a little bit of hypocrisy?
What do you think?
(I’ll be following this up soon … as I said at the start, I have LOTS to say on the topic of judgement :))