Ah, t’is the last day of the year 2015.
To be honest, I really dislike this time of year. I don’t dislike Christmas, for example, nor do I necessarily dislike the ‘party’ that is New Year’s Eve across the globe.
What I dislike is how, for this week between Christmas and New Year is just … dead. Dead from the perspective of being able to just get on with life. Life carries on after people divorce, lose jobs, and die, for example, but that week between December 25 and January 1 the following year (and this year, I’m sure it’ll carry through to the 4th of Jan, given the days that everything falls on), life seems to stop.
I have plans over the coming months, and yes, some could argue they are “new year’s resolutions” or “plans for the new year”. I just wantt o get stuff doneI
And, yes, I guess these plans could be viewed as resolutions for the new year. Or they just could be stuff I plan to do and just happen to fall into the new year, it’s just their proximity to the new year that has them perceived as resolutions or something.
Which is cool. If that works for you, if setting resolutions and having plans and goals specifically for 2016 is what motivates you and ensure they’ll get done, then I’m ALL for that. Serioulsy, if it works for you, I’ve got your back and you have my full support.
It doesn’t work for me, and I see year after year how many others it doesn’t work for.
And I think the major reason for this is that the clock hitting midnight, the fireworks, the smooching strangers in public, the date clicking over from December 31 to January 1 and all the other occurrences that occur, doesn’t actually change the person.
It is still you that carries on into the new day, week, month, year … you, with all of your personality and traits, your thoughts and beliefs, your habits and behaviours, and all the other things that make up you. It’s still you … and all those other things you’ve carried with you for life.
By you, I mean me. And you specifically. And humanity generally.
A new year, a new day, doesn’t change who we are, at our core. That’s not to say you just have to live with it and can’t do anything about it. Of course you can! We all can!
It’s just when we regurgitate the stock standard “I’m going to give up smoking/drinking/shopping” or “I’m going to lose weight”, your mind doesn’t suddenly decide it’s going to cooperate. No, you have to actively ignore the thoughts, not to mention the long-term habits and the all the physiological stuff that goes on with these activities, and stop doing stuff your entire being is telling you to do.
You physical addiction, your habits and psychological addictions, your environment, your level of laziness (or not), the way your day unfolds day after day, none of these things are left behind with the old year. You need to actively, consciously, repeatedly go against everything your mind and body are used to. Daily. Hourly even.
Perhaps even the idea of resolutions has become a habit? Just a thought.
Having said all of that, if you are one for using this time of year to reassess your life and determine to do something to improve your health and wellbeing, your level of happiness or enjoyment, or whatever, I’m not going to ask you what your resolutions are.
Instead, I’m going to ask you who are you going to be and what are you going to do to achieve these goals?
On the off chance anyone is interested and needs a bit of motivation, and because the timing is right, I’ve got back into movement and “exercise and weight loss”, a term I dislike but that appeals to and is related to by many, after my surgery earlier this year.
I’m also training for my SANE Great Wall of China Inspired Adventure so if you’d like to join me on some kind of social media inspiration, mutual arse kicking, and support I’m considering using hashtag #madcowSANEtrain … and I should probably also post here about it all.
A habit I must get into. It feels so completely and utterly wanky, and extremely self indulgent. Still, I know it matters to some of you, so I’ll get over myself and do it because it makes a difference to someone else 🙂
You joining me?
And are you going to have your own hashtag, too? What’ll it be?