It wasn’t all that long ago that I found myself amidst a conversation that was essentially all about how ALL men are perverted, sexual predators, just hanging around simply waiting to sexually molest, if not rape, children.
More specifically, they ONLY target in their sites was YOUR child.
Or mine, or the individual child/ren of the mother who was not only preaching this ‘warning’ to the rest of us, but adding in her fair share of “neglectful mothering” to those of us who dared suggest that not EVERY man was as horrible as they suggested, nor was the world as dangerous as they were stating.
To be clear, the playground was alongside a beachfront, and had car parking spots running the entire length of two sides of it.
Within the space of two thread replies, this man was branded a pervert, a beast, a monster and that someone should call the police. IMMEDIATELY.
What kind of fucked up sicko sits in a car, alongside a playground and beach front during the day??? Seriously?!
He couldn’t possibly have been on a lunch break.
Nor could the idea that he was simply feeling sad and just needed to sit quietly.
Or that he the sight of children playing, running around, and laughing lifted his spirits.
Perhaps he’d just lost his own child, or grandchild and was merely reminiscing.
Or lost his wife, or a close friend. Or that his children, married with their own kids, had recently separated and he was forbidden from seeing his grandchildren.
Maybe he pulled over to eat a sandwich.
None of these, of course, are possibilities. He must quite obviously be a “sicko” (to use the terminology in the thread) and that the police must be called immediately.
Maybe before a half slice of tomato fell from his salad sandwich and onto his lap? Who knows?
He certainly was posing no threat to anyone.
Just this week, nothing had changed.
A friend had mentioned the horrific experience that occurred after a man, driving slowly up and down a street spotted some school aged children playing in their front yard. He stopped the car, rolled down the passenger side window, leaned across and said … OMG, I can’t believe this, it’s far, far too horrible and scary to even consider.
Well, thank goodness we have the Facebook Lynch Mob to protect us, for a thread started in a bid to find this “sicko” (what is with that word?).
Once again, the suggestion that the police become involved by comment one or two was raised. Because this man must be pulled off the streets immediately!
How dare he drive the streets looking for his lost dog, all innocent and being a little concerned about his pet’s whereabouts, and probably also a little sad.
I’m not suggesting there aren’t fucked up sickos out there, nor that they wouldn’t use the “have you seen my dog” ruse to lure kids into the car.
Although, if he truly were a Fucked Up Sicko (FUS), he would more likely have said “Can you get in the car and help me find it?” and not simply drive slowly away, scanning the surrounding houses to see if he could spot his beloved quadruped.
In other discussions, this very same Facebook Lynch Mob (FLM) is talking about how they are raising their boys not only to “be safe” but also “with respect”. So that they will grow up to be socially attuned young men, who show care and compassion for their fellow men and women, who show respect to woman without oppressing them, or abusing them socially, emotionally, physically or financially.
They will become loving, caring fathers, who support their wives, and are essentially upstanding citizens a quite probably successful business men, with strong philanthropic values that most likely focus around removing FUSs from society. For good.
And I can’t help but laugh and think “*snort* Yuh huh, good luck with that!”
Not only do I believe that by “protecting” our young men, our boy children (and our girl children, for they are impacted upon in a very similar way, and will suffer the same outcome) in such a way deprives them greatly of some very, very essential life skills.
Not least being the ability to develop their intuition, and their common senses, to be able to adequately gauge whether a man, driving by in a car, or sitting in his car beside a playground, or merely taking a leak in a room, designated specifically for men in need of taking a leak, are genuinely fucked up and sick, or genuinely looking for a dog/eating lunch/weeing.
They learn to trust their instincts and intuition.
Especially – and I feel this is vastly more significant and important – towards those men who are close to them; uncles, family friends, regular visitors. Because they are FAR MORE LIKELY to be fiddled with by a FUS who is a family member, family friend, and regular visitor in their home.
But they are deprived of this opportunity to develop such an essential survival skill.
Aside from that we are currently raising a generation of children, and for the sake of this post, boys, who are of the firm belief that the entire world is Out To Get Them.
No one can be trusted, everyone walking by the house or speaking to them is hell bent of sexually molesting them, or abducting them, or doing something untoward to them, and we think that by teaching them respect, without allowing them to develop common sense, that we’ll have a generation of well-rounded, nice men?
Not a whole bunch of men, quite possibly deciding it is simply easier to be hermits, because everyone around them has grown up (themselves included) with the belief that ALL men are Fucked Up Sickos with nothing else on their minds other than raping small children. Boy children at that.
They are more likely to believe that they are the ONLY nice man in a world full of child rapists, and will no doubt force their fears onto their own children.
Assuming they find a woman who is able to logically see that not all men are fucked up, and some are actually rather quite lovely, and decide to procreate with one.
When I say “some” I actually mean most men. Because most men are really quite lovely and very, very good with children, and helpful, and respectful, and loving, and caring and a whole bunch of other stuff.
If we’re also telling our boys, now, that all men are sicko child molesters, don’t we also run the risk of raising boys who believe that that is simply how men are and that there is no other option to grow up and be a FUS, because all they’ve heard, all their life, is how it is not safe to go for a wee in the boys’ toilets because All Men Are Fucked Up And Sick?
Whilst we have the best of intentions, I honestly fear for the future of this society; because we’re more likely to be surrounded by men who have had no opportunity to grow, develop, and learn to trust their instincts and common sense, than we are now currently surrounded by men with ill-intentions.
And that, for me, is the irony of “protecting” today’s young men, and thinking we’re going to have a future that is filled with the type of men we want our boys to be, our girls (or boys) to be partnered with, and to be a part of a safe, harmonious society when we achieve our own old age and require care from competent, capable, and caring adults.